Life Meets You Halfway — But Only If You Commit (Day 18)

I used to believe that if I wanted something, I had to do it all myself.

No luck. Just effort, discipline, and grind.

I didn’t sit around planning or waiting for clarity — I moved forward through sheer force. And for a while, it worked. That mindset took me far in sport, in poker, in business.

But looking back, I see how narrow that view was.

Because something kept happening — quietly, unexpectedly — whenever I fully committed to something meaningful.

Doors would open. People would appear. Ideas would click into place at just the right moment.

It didn’t happen when I was half-in. And it definitely didn’t happen when I was just going through the motions.

But when I backed myself fully, when I took the leap — life responded.

It felt like something was meeting me halfway.

And over time, I realised the deeper truth:

The path doesn’t appear before you walk it. It appears because you do.

Here are three interesting realisations I've been having recently.

1. Action Creates Clarity

We live in a culture obsessed with planning and optimisation. We want the perfect 5-year vision, the most efficient roadmap, the highest-leverage strategy. And when things feel uncertain, we tend to double down on thinking — trying to solve the puzzle in our heads before making a move.

But real clarity doesn’t work like that.

You can’t think your way into a new life. You have to move your way into it.

I see this a lot living in Bali, a place filled with dreamers and creators. There’s a big focus on energy, manifestation, visualisation — and while I believe mindset and energy matter, they’re not enough on their own.

From my experience, it’s only when I commit to something — when I start walking the path — that things begin to shift.

A remember when I committed to building a new coaching business from scratch. I didn’t know how it would unfold, or whether it would work. But once I made the decision to go all in, things started to move. I met the right people. I had strange moments of luck. Problems found surprising solutions.

The path didn’t get easier, but it got clearer.

That never happened when I sat around trying to “figure it out.”

The path appears because you’re walking. Not before.

2. Life Waits to See If You’re Serious

There’s a strange delay effect I’ve noticed when you commit to something important.

It’s like life watches you for a while, waiting to see if you’re serious. Waiting to see if you’re doing this because you truly care — or just chasing an outcome.

When you go all in, things don’t immediately fall into place. In fact, it often gets harder at first. Doubt creeps in. Progress stalls. You question yourself.

But if you stay the course — if you show that your commitment is real — something begins to shift.

It’s almost like life says, “Okay, I believe you now. Let me help.”

The mistake I used to make was dipping a toe in and waiting for results before I fully committed. I’d hold back a little, thinking that if it looked promising, then I’d give it my all.

But that’s not how it works.

When you’re half in, half out — life knows. And it responds accordingly.

This doesn’t mean you have to hustle nonstop or force things unnaturally. It’s not about burning out. It’s about alignment. Showing up with your full presence. Giving your best energy to what matters.

When you do that — when you pass the test — life starts to meet you with synchronicity, momentum, and support you couldn’t have predicted.

3. You’re a Co-Creator — Not the Sole Creator

The final piece is perhaps the hardest for the ego to accept.

The ego wants credit. It wants to believe it’s in control. That everything is happening because of its hard work, its clever plan, its relentless effort.

But real breakthroughs — the ones that change your life — rarely come from force. They come from a strange mix of effort and surrender.

You do your part. You walk your path. But you don’t control what shows up along the way.

This is the Taoist principle of wu wei — effortless action. Flowing with life, not fighting it.

When I’ve been in that state — focused but unattached, committed but open — life has a way of surprising me. The right person sends a message. A long shot pays off. A challenge dissolves.

And I can’t explain it logically. It’s like something beyond me is helping.

But the moment I try to control it all — when I grip too tightly, overthink, or chase — it slips through my fingers.

You are not the sole creator. You are a co-creator. And your job is to show up, take action, and stay open to what life brings.

When you do that, things begin to unfold in ways you couldn’t have scripted.

Final Reflection: Show Life You’re Serious

If you’re feeling stuck right now, like nothing’s happening and you aren’t getting the results you want — consider this:

Maybe life isn’t holding you back.

Maybe life is just waiting for you to go first.

To take the step.

To go all in.

To show that you’re serious.

Because once you do, life will start meeting you halfway.

Not immediately. Not always the way you expect. But it will.

That’s how the dance works.

So here’s the question I’m asking myself — and maybe it’s one you need too:

Where am I holding back? And what would it look like to truly back myself?

Whatever comes up, walk toward it.

Life’s already waiting to meet you halfway.

Adam